What is betrayal?

Betrayal is anything that happens in the relationship that wasn't consensual or agreed upon. This can include the use of escorts, going to strip clubs, having an emotional or secret relationship affair, doing sexual acts with someone outside of relationship, porn use, sending nudes online, and a wide variety of other behaviours. Non-sexual betrayal can include other secretive behaviours like gambling, drug use or mismanagement of finances. 

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What is betrayal trauma?

Not everyone who experiences betrayal develops 'Partner Betrayal Trauma'. This is a unique form of trauma that occurs within relationships, based on the impact that broken trust has. This often shows up in the form of extreme fatigue, flashbacks, disordered or inability to eat, insomnia, nausea etc. It is very common for those who have experienced betrayal in their intimate relationship to exhibit signs of complex PTSD.

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How long is a session?

60mins or we can arrange longer if required. In some instances an intensive or a disclosure process is needed which can be anywhere between 3-7 hours. We can also do an urgent session in your home if you have just discovered something. This is at an increased "call out fee". Please text me 0273236715 if you are wanting urgent support. 

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I've just found out I've been betrayed, when should I reach out?

The earlier the better, if your partner doesn't want to see someone then it's important you still get support urgently to gain a sense of safety again. I recommend seeing a therapist who specialises in betrayal within 3 days of discovery. 

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Will couples counselling be enough?

Partners who have been betrayed often need their own personal counselling alongside couples counselling. You could start together with a couples session and then we make a plan for what's needed next. Regular couples therapists may not have the specific expertise required to navigate significant betrayal, ask each therapist what their experience level is. 

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I think I'm going to leave, do I still need counselling?

I believe couples can seperate in a healthy way if they have enough support, and there will still be recovery/healing work for you to do once you have separated. 

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What if I see you on the street and you know all about my life?

That's ok - I won't approach you or disclose to anyone that I know you or your partner. If we are introduced at an event or socially I will pretend I do not know you to ensure your privacy. This has happened before and has been completely fine.